Overcoming the imposter
Do you feel like an imposter at work, or perhaps in your studies? If you feel like you are a fraud and don’t belong, even though you are actually quite capable, then you might suffer from “imposter syndrome” and you are not alone. A new study based on tertiary students in a high-performance program found that 20 percent of people reported feeling like an imposter, soon to be found out. If it helps to know you are not alone, it will help even more to know that the way to overcome imposter syndrome is to look outside of your group. Researchers found that seeking social support from outside their academic program, definitely not from within it, helped people get over the syndrome. Getting some perspective and resetting your reference points helps dissolve imposter syndrome … and in life generally, for that matter.
Source: Journal of Vocational Behavior
Strike a power pose
If you know the DC or Marvel movies you will be familiar with the power pose. Wonder Woman is a big fan; it involves standing with your fists on your hips, arms forming a triangle either side of your body. A few years ago a flurry of studies came out saying that adopting a power pose before a meeting or interview will boost your confidence. Now a researcher says that is all bunkum (not his term) because he reviewed 40 studies on the topic and has found a big flaw. He says that the studies reporting a positive effect from the power pose compared it to contracted or slouching postures. He did find one study that used a neutral pose in the comparison and in that study the neutral pose yielded more powerful feelings than the power pose. Ditch the power pose before your interview; you’ll look silly in your underwear anyway.
Sins of the parents …
Parenting is a high-pressure gig … it’s like learning to play the violin on stage in front of a packed auditorium. In the heat of battle, parents can experience some less-than-stellar moments and resort to telling lies that can be one of them. What parent hasn’t warned something similar to, “If you keep hitting that drum your ears might explode!” Small lies can be a tool of parental survival but what is their effect? To test this, researchers surveyed young adults and found that those who were lied to by their parents were more likely to lie to their parents as young adults. Those people who had been lied to also reported having more difficulties in facing challenging moments in life. Little lies might seem like the easy way out but in the long run, they make things harder. Honesty hurts, but it pays off.
Source: Journal of Experimental Child Psychology